Love Your Voice!

Your voice is more than just a physical mechanism that produces sound—it’s actually the embodied expression of who you are. It’s the channel through which your thoughts, emotions, and identity are communicated to the world. Consider your voice as the link between your innermost self and how you express this self publicly, how you share this self with others.

Your voice carries your unique energy, personality, and essence, making it a vital part of your overall self-expression. It’s shaped by your culture, your primary language, your upbringing and yes, even your beliefs. Everything is expressed on your voice, whether you like it or not.

These are just some of the reasons why being able to love your voice is so important:

• Your voice is unique: Just as no two people have the same fingerprint, no two voices are alike. Your voice mirrors your unique identity. So when you can love your voice, you’re able to essentially love yourself.
• It’s an embodied experience: Your voice resonates within your body, vibrating throughout your entire being. It’s an embodied physical, emotional, and even spiritual tool for self-expression. Concentrating on it can also help you return to your current state of self-awareness. 
• Your voice is a powerful tool: How you use it can influence how others see you, how people feel in your presence, and even how you view yourself. It shapes the opinions other people form about you. Through your voice, you directly impact the world around you. 

Understanding your voice as an extension, and as an audible expression, of yourself is the first step toward appreciating and loving it.

Connecting with your voice means more than just speaking or singing—it involves tuning into your body’s sensations, energy, and emotions as you express yourself and as you tone, speak, grunt, shout, hum or sing.

This connection allows you to use your voice in a way that is authentic and aligned with your true self. It helps you truly experience and love your voice!

Here’s how you can strengthen this connection:

1.Focus on your breath: It’s the core of your voice. Conscious breathing helps you connect to your body and creates space for your voice to emerge naturally. Begin by allowing the air to enter your lungs and feeling your lower belly gently rise as you do. This is called belly breathing (or for the yogis amongst us, Yogic Belly Breathing). You can use this breathing to keep yourself centred in the moment.

2. Feel the vibrations: As you speak or tone, focus on the vibrations of your voice in your body. Rest your hand over your chest and notice the gentle vibrations as you vocalise. This practice helps you ground your awareness of your voice in your physical body, making it a more embodied and tangible experience.

3. Practise conscious toning: Toning is a simple but powerful way to connect with your voice. Start with a gentle hum or an “mmm” sound, allowing the vibrations to move through you. Stay curious. Explore where you feel the vibrations within you. 

• • Can you feel them in your chest?
  • In your throat? Perhaps in the crown of your head?
  • Or even down into your pelvis?

As you tone, curiously follow the felt experience of your resonating voice within you. You may also like to imagine that these vibrations are releasing any tension or blockages in your body, helping your voice flow freely.

4. Establish a comfortable environment for self-expression: To truly connect with your voice, it’s important to cultivate a space where you feel free to express yourself openly and without fear of judgement. This might mean finding a quiet room where you won’t be disturbed, or practising in nature where you can feel more connected to the earth. Once you deepen your trust to yourself and your voice through practice, you’ll become more comfortable expressing yourself the way you need to in other spaces, too.

5. Listen to your body: Your voice and body are interconnected: your voice is made in you, through you. There is no separation. Pay attention to how your body feels when you speak or sing:

• • Are there areas of tension?
  • Do certain emotions arise?
  • Do specific thoughts or beliefs come up

 Whatever arises, observe it all with present awareness without trying to change anything. By being mindful to the inner experience of your voice, you can start to release any physical, emotional or even mental blocks that may be hindering your self-expression and your free voice. 

When you cultivate a positive relationship with your voice, you’re affirming your worth, your uniqueness, and your right to express yourself freely. Here’s why loving your voice is so important:

Self-expression is a form of self-care: Your voice is one of the primary ways you communicate with the world. When you love your voice, you give yourself permission to express your thoughts, feelings, and creativity without fear of judgement. This self-expression is a vital part of self-care and emotional well-being.

Releasing self-judgement: Many of us carry negative beliefs about our voices—whether it’s about the way we sound or how we think others perceive us. Such judgements can create barriers that prevent us from expressing ourselves completely. If you can love your voice through experiencing it more fully, this act helps you release these judgements and embrace your authentic sound. It empowers you to share your most authentic self with the world. Nothing is more beautiful or powerful than this!

Empowerment through voice: Your voice is a tool for empowerment. When you can love your voice, this boosts your confidence in communication, helping you assert your needs, desires, and boundaries more effectively. This newfound empowerment can significantly influence both your personal and professional life.

Healing through sound: Your voice has the power to heal. Whether through chanting, singing mantras or conscious songs, by toning, or simply speaking your truth, your voice can help you release emotional blocks, reduce stress, and connect with deeper aspects of yourself. To love your voice means recognising its potential as a healing tool and your potential as the captain of your ship and the manifestor of your world.

Love Your Voice: An Exercise in Compassion

Compassion, responding to our suffering with kindness, actually helps regulate our nervous system. It causes the brain to release oxytocin, which is the “calm and connect” hormone because it reduces cortisol levels (the stress hormone). Connecting to parts of ourselves that we judge or struggle with, using compassion, is a powerful tool for healing and transformation.

In this exercise, from my Transformative Voice Training, I invite you to connect to a block you’re currently experiencing around your voice. Something that prevents you freely expressing yourself in the way you wish to. Before you begin, find a comfortable seat where you won’t be disturbed for the next 10-minutes. Once you’ve found your seat, either close your eyes, or rest them in a soft gaze. 

1. Begin by tuning into your breath. Follow the natural flow within and see if you can slightly lengthen your exhalation.
2. Feel into yourself: observe the sensations your body shares with you in the present moment. If you observe tightness or tension anywhere, see if you can watch that place for a few breaths and notice what happens.
3. Now direct your awareness to your heart. You may wish to place one hand on your chest to help. Breathe into and out of your heart-centre for a few round of breath. When you feel anchored there, continue with the next step.
4. Gently tune into the block you have to loving your voice. Observe it, feel into the sensations in your body related to this block. See if you can “call it in.” Observe where you feel the block the most in your body and, if you wish to, place your other hand there. Stay here for a few rounds of breath (please note that if it gets too intense, simply return to the awareness of your heart). 
5. If you can stay with the block, say to it, “I see you.” Repeat this a number of times. Watch and feel what happens in your body. 
6. If you can, imagine sending it radiant love from your heart. You may like to imagine a gentle shower of vibrant light extending from your heart to where you most feel that part in your body. Continue this visualisation for a few breaths. 
7. Now, if it feels ok for you, begin to hum an “mmm” sound gently. You may like to imagine the vibrations of that sound gently caressing the block. Avoid voice. Allow your journey to be gentle, soft and loving.
8. When you’re ready to come back, gently relax your concentration. Become aware of the parts of your body connected to the earth. Deepen your breathing. Take time to stretch and release, and slowly bring your awareness back to the room.

Let me know if you have any questions about this exercise. It’s very powerful, especially when it’s guided. You’re welcome to book in a free 30-minute discovery session with me if you need more support or have questions.

Love Your Voice and Embrace Yourself!

Loving your voice is not just about perfecting how it sounds—it’s about embracing a deep, authentic connection with yourself. When you truly love your voice, you open the door to self-expression, empowerment, and healing. Your voice is a mirror of your unique identity, a tool for sharing your thoughts and emotions with the world, and an incredible pathway to self-discovery.

As you explore the ways I’ve shared here in this post to help you love your voice, remember that each practice invites you to let go of judgement and nurture a relationship with your voice that is rooted in self-acceptance and self-love. From breathing deeply to feeling the vibrations of your sound, these techniques guide you to a more embodied and free expression of who you actually are.

Whether you are speaking, singing, or simply humming, being able to love your voice can transform not only your communication but also your confidence and overall sense of well-being. When you embrace this journey, you allow your voice to become a powerful ally—a source of strength, authenticity, and freedom.

So take the time, cultivate the space, and love your voice, because in doing so, you’re choosing to love yourself!

Podcast Episode #41 – How to love your voice!

Love Your Voice!

In this week’s solo episode Kirbanu shares all about how to love your voice by having a kind, compassionate, accepting, and embodied relationship with your voice. Developing a mindful, loving relationship with your voice, you can release, heal and integrate some of your internal blocks, blocks that may be holding you back from what you truly want in life.

Kirbanu speaks about the keys to love your voice and freeing your voice through self-love. Without self-love, we tend to forget about everything else. We get stuck in judging ourselves, comparing ourselves, and being afraid to say the things we want.

Throughout this episode, Kirbanu encourages and helps you to free your voice. Not only does she talk about how to love your voice, she also shares her experience at a festival where she was teaching a mantra workshop. At this festival she witnessed rooms full of people, letting their voice out, and loving their voice. This was a truly powerful and connected experience for her to share in.

Kirbanu ends the episode by sharing the same tools she gave to her students at the festival, to help them unlock their voices, so you, too, can love your voice and free your most authentic expression!